Hello.
Long time no blog.
To bring you all up to date, mum is now in a nursing home after a stay in hospital. I have had a bit of a breakdown and am receiving counselling and drugs for depression. I think "recovering from caring" will be my next blog. Details to follow.
Here is something my sister wrote ages ago, I have been meaning to share it for so so long but every time I read it I cry. It is quite possibly one of the loveliest things I have ever read.
What do you remember?
Long time no blog.
To bring you all up to date, mum is now in a nursing home after a stay in hospital. I have had a bit of a breakdown and am receiving counselling and drugs for depression. I think "recovering from caring" will be my next blog. Details to follow.
Here is something my sister wrote ages ago, I have been meaning to share it for so so long but every time I read it I cry. It is quite possibly one of the loveliest things I have ever read.
What do you remember?
I had a dream last night. Me and mum were whizzing about in
the car. We picnicked in a field. I could smell the grass and the sunshine and
the summer. My old dog was there. He’s been dead for a while. Mum and me
chatted laughed and joked. Mum’s not been
able to chat or laugh or joke for a while. It was a one of the loveliest
dreams I've ever had but when I tell people I cry.
I've been thinking about dreams and memories. Before mum
went into hospital we would have an adventure every Tuesday. We re-discovered
the freedom that swimming brings. We delighted in tea-rooms and magical walled
gardens in stately homes. We sat at a favourite spot and marvelled at how high
hills were, how slow cows were, how green and wonderful was the view. We were
silly, we sang and danced and filled our hearts with music.
I thought I was making memories for mum. Everyone tells you
to keep memories alive, to help the dementia sufferer to find their happy
place. Now I know I was making memories for me too. These are the times I will
remember. I will remember the disease as it is now, but I will remember my mum
as she was then.